Episode 8: Marrying the Family…The In Laws

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

September sees the start of wedding fair season and with those sultry summer nights leading to many marriage proposals, engaged couples everywhere will now be looking for ideas and inspiration to plan the wedding of their dreams in the year to come. However where do you draw the line when the wedding you want isn’t to your soon-to-be mother in law’s taste and what was your ideal wedding has now changed to becoming more like your mum’s?

As a wedding planner I am sometimes asked advice on awkward family situations when it comes to arranging seating plans, writing invitations and who should pay for what. So I felt in this month’s Butterfly Journal blog and podcast I would focus on relationships in two parts – the first focusing on the relationship you have with your soon to be in-laws.

Whilst creating a new family with your intended can be exciting, joining each others existing families can be challenging for some, particularly if there are differences around culture, religion and lifestyle – so what do you do?

Relationship counsellor Denise Knowles from Relate gives good advice in the eighth episode of the Butterfly Journal podcast but believes if you are entering a relationship where a mother and son are close, going in there with a view to being the person in the middle and ultimately the one who causes a wedge will only antagonise the situation. A more wiser solution would be to become friends with your mother in law, ask her advice on things and get her involved and you’ll find this will make the transition to accepting you in the family all the more smoother.

Regarding the wedding itself, couples should always be clear about what they want from the start by explaining to families what kind of wedding they want and what they would like them to do to be involved regardless of whether it’s a destination wedding or a more traditional one. Will they be able to contribute x or what is there opinion on trying to create y.

To hear Denise’s full interview which also covers eloping and dealing with step children head to the Butterfly Journal podcast at www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

As always I would love to receive your comments about this or any of the topics we have covered so far.

Until next time Happy Planning!

Episode 7: Save on the wedding, don’t scrimp on the photographs..UK edition

Sunday, August 15th, 2010

So earlier this month, I began discussing the process of finding one of your key suppliers  – your wedding photographer. Focusing specifically on destination photography I highlighted the differences in using an overseas photographer with the help of Steve Cumberbatch.

Today I want to look at what to expect closer to home,  in the UK, this time with the help of Julia Boggio from Julia Boggio photography.

Julia started her photographic career a decade ago and has carved out her own unique style, which is very much a contemporary mix of reportage with a touch of fashion and glamour. The result – like you’ve just stepped out of a page of a magazine.

Here are a couple of examples of her work:

Finding your wedding photographer is firstly about finding a style of photos that speaks to you and you like. Whether it’s traditional (the style your parents have) reportage (documentary style – taking pictures as it happens) or a contemporary mix.

Once you’ve meet your potential photographer then their personality plays a key role because you will both need to get along in order for the whole experience to run smoothly. So definitely find one that makes you feel at ease and you get on with.

Julia takes this to the next level as part of her service she arranges a pre-wedding shoot in order for the nerves and cobwebs to come out. According to Julia ‘the whole experience just proves that they do look good in photos and they can trust me to get the right pictures’.

Whilst the cost of having stunning photos  like these has a massive part to play (and Julia reveals all in the full interview on the Butterfly Journal podcast), finding a photographer with experience is key.  Knowing how to deal with constantly changing light situations and how to work the camera, are just some of the features of a good photographer that you are paying for and someone who is just using a digital camera as a hobby is less likely to get this right so beware!!

Finally its all about trust, if you trust your photographer then like Julia’s clients you’ll be happy to do almost anything in order to get the right pictures.

To hear in detail Julia’s packages and services and her opinions on finding a photographer head to the Butterfly Journal podcast  at  www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

As always I would love to receive your comments about your experiences on finding a photographer or any of the topics we have covered so far.

Until next time, Happy Planning!

Episode 7: Some questions all couples should ask their wedding photographer

Monday, August 9th, 2010

So you’ve looked at images in magazines, read various bridal blogs and trawled the web in search of your ideal wedding photographer. You’ve now got an idea of who you like but how do you make your decision?

Making an appointment to see your potential photographer can be nerve racking but take a breath, as this person’s personality as well as their work should make it easy for you to make your decision. And being armed with questions to ask can only be a good thing.

So I thought I would list some questions that photographers I work with and recommend would welcome but aren’t always asked.

1. Should we pay for our photographer’s meals and transport?

Photographers price you for their time and the packages they offer but if you are marrying further afield from where they are, be prepared to cover their transport and accommodation costs especially if you plan on taking a UK photographer to your destination wedding.

As for meals, consider this  – would you go without food for your eight-hour day at work? Therefore in order to help those making your wedding day special offering them a small meal discreetly during say your wedding breakfast when its quiet and not much is happening would always be greatly appreciated.

2. Who owns the copyright of the photographs?

The photographer – photos are their business, so don’t be surprised if they refuse this request.

Also be aware there is a distinction between giving the copyright away and them giving you a disc of images. By giving you a disc of images the photographer still owns the copyright but they are allowing you to reprint their photographs at your discretion. However if you are to use the photographs for any commercial gain the photos still belong to the photographer and his or her work still needs to be credited accordingly.

3. What happens if you (the photographer) are ill?

Although this is an unlikely scenario a good photographer will make sure that there is a well thought out back up plan with another photographer they know very well with a similar style and standard. Always check with your chosen photographer on their chosen plan of action should this happen.

4. Do photographers like being given lists?

Trust always springs to mind here, as you will need to trust your photographer to make sure that they will take all the pictures that they need to create your story.

However we are all aware that your parents may want that picture of Aunt Bessie and her family, so to save time try grouping all relevant parties together in your list to the photographer so that you have more time with him or her getting the pictures of you that you’ll love rather than the ones your mum must have.

5.  Does it matter how many photos I get?

With the evolution of digital photography photographers can take so many photographs in one day and according to one established photographer, Julia Boggio the average amount of photographs she would take in a day could be anything up to 800 images.  However that is way too many photographs for you to go through, so there needs to be certain amount of objectivity.

According to Julia ,‘Your photographer gives you a selection because that is what they feel are the best of the bunch. Its really not about the quantity of pictures you receive but the quality, so you won’t get 800 from me simply because some will be either be very similar or you’ll  have your eyes closed’, so again its about trusting the photographer to deliver the best.

That’s all for now, I hope you have found these questions useful. Next week we look at UK photography and speak to Julia Boggio from Julia photography in more detail on the podcast.

Until then…..Happy Planning

Episode 7: Save on the wedding, don’t scrimp on your photographs..Caribbean edition

Sunday, August 1st, 2010

So you are in the throes of planning your wedding and attention has turned from finding that perfect venue to choosing your dress to now finding the right suppliers. But there is one key supplier I would suggest that is too important to overlook and that is your photographer.

Why? Because there are essentially two things that survive your wedding day – your marriage and your photographs and by choosing the right photographer that will capture and document your special day so well that they re-ignite your memories every time you, your kids and your family look at them for years to come is without a doubt priceless.

I would recommend starting your research for a photographer as soon as you set the date as really good photographers are often booked well in advance. But if your knowledge on choosing the right photographer is limited this month’s Butterfly Journal podcast is for you.

How to find the right photographer, what to look for and the various styles on offer are just some questions that will be covered. But in the first part of two episodes covering this topic we talk to destination wedding photographer Steve Cumberbatch, owner of Magical Moments photographic services in Barbados, whose 17 year experience of exclusively photographing weddings makes him the ideal person to speak about destination wedding photography.

I can hear you say but aren’t all photographers the same regardless of where they come from. The easy answer has to be no and Steve will quickly point out that the Caribbean though blessed with great weather being close to the equator has a different quality of light compared to say the UK as it tends to be a lot harsher. Therefore  one tip from Steve is you need to be careful when you schedule the time of your wedding because in the summer months the light is better at certain times of the day than in the winter months for example and only a seasoned pro who is used to dealing with that kind of  light will really understand how to use and manipulate it best to their and your advantage.

To give you an idea of the Steve’s work see a couple of pictures below;

And to hear Steve’s full interview head to the Butterfly Journal podcast  at www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

As always I would love to receive your comments about your experiences on finding a photographer or any of the topics we have covered so far.

Next week we look at tips and questions to ask a photographer?

Until then Happy Planning!

Episode 6: Choosing a unique wedding venue….Tips Prt 2

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

So to continue our tips for finding a wedding venue, here’s a few more….

Guests

Tip 1: Before deciding on a wedding venue, you should have a clear idea of how many guests you wish to attend and your budget.

Tip 2: Prepare a tentative guest list and make sure to look for venues that can accommodate the number of guests you will be inviting.

Tip 3: Be aware that a sit down dinner will require more space than a stand up buffet. So if a venue allows 100 seated, it could mean they are prepared to have 200 standing for canapés. Decide which one best suits your guest size.

Wedding Venue Facilities

Is the venue suitable for guests with disabilities and can it provide appropriate seating for the elderly and/or young children?

Tip 4: If you have elderly or disabled guests at your wedding make sure that there are lifts as well as stairs or easily accessible access for those who are frail.

Wedding Transport

Is there enough parking for guests who drive, and decent transport links for those who don’t?

Tip 5: Make sure there are places where guests can park or organise a mini bus or taxis for guests to shuttle to and from their accommodation.

I hope you are enjoying these regular posts? I would love to receive your comments so please leave a message on the blog.

Next week we look at photography.

Until then…Happy Planning

Episode 6 Prt 2: Choosing a unique wedding venue?….The UK

Thursday, July 15th, 2010

So earlier this month, we looked at some unique venues in the Caribbean but what choice is available closer to home, in the UK?

One man who’s spent a lot of time looking at wedding locations across the length and breadth of the UK is Bob Harrison – the co-founder of WeddingVenues.Com - an online directory of civil ceremony and reception locations.

Bob and his business partner Andrew Clarke launched WeddingVenues.Com after Bob and his wife Wendy spent months driving from location to location before they finally found their perfect venue.

With more than 5000 UK venues listed, Bob has more than a few ideas on finding a great location for your big day. However for those who are not sure whether the UK is for them he suggests the UK stands out from the crowd due to the amazing architecture and countryside, which is second to none.

Here are a few examples of his favourites:

The other reason the UK stands out is the fact that you have to be married under a permanent structure whereas in the Caribbean the beach or almost anywhere gets the nod. If you are looking for something quite unique like an old railway station, theatre or even pump room the UK offers an amazing variety unrivalled anywhere else.

To hear Bob’s wedding venue tips and possible locations for you to think about, head to our latest podcast  at  www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

Next week we drop part 2 of our wedding venue tips, but until then

Happy Planning!

Episode 6: Top tips for choosing a unique wedding venue….Prt 1

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

Whether you know where you are getting married or you are starting from a blank page, choosing your wedding location is one of the most important wedding planning decisions you will make.

To help you get underway here are a couple of tips on what you should consider when choosing a wedding venue.

Location

The first thing to take into consideration when choosing a wedding location is that there are two parts of your wedding to organise – the ceremony and the  reception.

If you’re opting for a church wedding, the reception must be planned around the ceremony location.

Tip 1: Check that you and guests can be easily transported from the service to reception and that it can accommodate the same number of people?

If you’re thinking about a civil wedding, you have the option of choosing a venue that will host both your wedding ceremony and your wedding reception. If this is your choice, then

Tip 2: Pick a venue that is licensed for marriage ceremonies. This may come with a higher price tag than non-licenced wedding venues, but it will minimise the amount of travel involved for you and your guests.

Tip 3: If you’re holding your ceremony and reception at one venue, check how long it will take the staff to change the room and where the guests will have to go whilst the room is rearranged.

Tip 4: If you’re holding an outdoor wedding or reception, have a back up plan if it rains. Tent, anyone?

Availability

Check the availability of the venues for the day you and your spouse decide to get married.

Tip 5: Plan to book your venue at least six months to a year in advance to avoid disappointment.

Thats all for now but I hope you will enjoy these regular updates? As always I would love to receive your comments so please leave a comment on the blog.

Next week we look at UK venues and speak to Bob Harrison from Wedding Venues on the podcast.

Until then…..Happy Planning

Episode 6: Choosing a unique wedding venue….The Caribbean

Thursday, July 1st, 2010

Deciding on your wedding venue is indeed one of the most important decisions you will make for your wedding. Whether you are getting married at home or abroad the location you choose will set the mood and the tone for your whole wedding, and will be the focus of your pictures and videos for years to come.

This is where I believe a good wedding planner can come into their own, as they not only get to know you both but will know what you are like and what you are looking for. They therefore should be able to provide you with a number of properties that hopefully you will not only fall in love with but will also accommodate your guest numbers and fit your budget.

As the owner of Pierre Carr, Exclusive Tropical Weddings I am always on the look out for unique wedding locations, so for this month I wanted to give you a little insight into some of the places I have discovered and why they are unique.

Focusing on the Caribbean first,  in the sixth episode of The Butterfly Journal I speak to William Gordon, owner of Fustic House a private estate on the West coast of Barbados, whose property is described by the national trust as the ‘Jewel of the Caribbean’.

Set in 11 acres of land, which dates back to 700 ad, William explains in the episode about the beauty of the property. With designs by Oliver Messel, the discovery of the Arawak caves and the very private and personal service that you would receive when you are on property all which helps to make it unique.

To give you an idea of the property see a couple of the pictures below.

For another option there is the Half Moon resort in Jamaica, which has long, been the destination of choice for the world’s elite. Set on 400 acres of land bordered by an idyllic two-mile white sand beach, Half Moon has everything, including a dolphin lagoon, which in our podcast Myrtle Dwyer, Director of Sales and Marketing explains how Bruno (the Dolphin) can participate in your nuptials.

With a combination of  30 unique locations to get married as well as the dolphins, Half Moon again offers something quite unique. See below for a couple of pictures.

To hear the full interviews by William Gordon & Myrtle Dwyer on the Butterfly Journal podcast go to  www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

As always I would love to receive your comments about your wedding locations and why you chose them. So please do leave a comment and let me know how you are finding the blog.

Next week we look at tips to help choose your wedding location. Until then,  Happy Planning

Episode 5: What’s stopping you from having a wedding abroad?

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

With a large majority of couples now paying for their own weddings, the decision to get married somewhere exotic with close friends and family looking on, now means that destination weddings has become increasingly popular.

According to Mintel one in six, that’s 16% of British weddings now takes place abroad. That equates to an estimated 51,300 overseas weddings, a massive 43% increase since 2003.

By mixing great weather with high standards of service, UK couples now realise that an overseas wedding really can be the way to go. However, whilst many brides dream of a wedding abroad there are a number of reasons why many back out.

Thats why in the fifth episode of The Butterfly Journal podcast, I try to dispel some of these reasons by discussing tips with experts who help to make dream destination weddings a reality in the Caribbean.

To give you an idea of what we discuss – the first major concern for any couple wishing to get married abroad is the Cost, but it doesn’t need to be. With the average wedding in the UK costing £20,000 pounds, your money can go a lot further (depending on the exchange rate) abroad. How?

Well as most Caribbean islands work in dollars £10,000 pounds  = $30,000 Barbados dollars therefore you can get so much more for your money and you’ll also have those great sunset shots to show for it as just one example.

Cedric Lynch and Devon Chase from the Barbados Tourist Board understands this fact as they often have queries on destination weddings to answer.  So in the fifth episode of The Butterfly Journal: An Inspiring Wedding Guide, we discuss the different options that are available in order to stretch those pounds.

The second major concern for couples is often the Guests, as deciding on having a wedding abroad is always exciting for the couple but a lot of consideration has to be made for guests as they are investing more for your wedding.

In this situation I believe it’s important for guests to see this as an opportunity for a holiday and not just your wedding day.  I suggest giving guests as much notice as possible so that they are able to attend and have the time  to save and book flights and hotels as early as possible.  

Carla Risha-Wright from the Ritz Carlton, Jamaica agrees with this point offering sound advice in the Butterfly Journal for occupying guests time before and after the wedding.

Legalities are another major concern as the holiday island you love may not be recognised by UK law should you wish to marry there. I suggest you always check with your destination’s embassy for the exact details or hire a wedding planner like Pierre Carr to sort out the details for you. However, where ever you choose to get married its very important to understand the legal requirements.

Peter Meyer from The Rose Hall Resort and Spa, Jamaica discusses this with me in the podcast referring to the amount of days you need to be in Jamaica before you can tie the knot and the paperwork required.

You can hear more tips on What’s stopping you from having a wedding abroad’ by going to The Butterfly Journal podcast.

And if this post or the podcast  has inspired you please leave a comment or send an email to press@pierrecarr.com. As ultimately this podcast is to help inform you!

Next month, we look at ‘Unique Wedding Locations’.

Until then,  Happy Planning

Episode 4: Deciding on you dream dress….retail or couture what are your options?

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

A wedding dress is the most meaningful and expensive item of clothing you will ever own. It’s also the centrepiece for your entire wedding and thanks to the likes of Facebook and one click uploading of videos, you and your dress will be seen not only by your guests but by  friends, family and complete strangers around the world in no time. So your dress, at the very least, should bring out your best features and make you look and feel a million dollars.

So where do you start?

Subscribing to a few bridal magazines is definitely the way to go, as each month you will get the latest fashion tips and trends to inspire you. But once you have an idea in mind, visiting a retail store or having your dress made is your next step. The experience will either fill you with joy or dread, depending on whether retail therapy is your thing.  That’s why for this month I wanted to focus on the retail and couture experience, giving you a firm understanding of the different options available.

So in the fourth episode of the Butterfly Journal podcast I speak to three experts with their own distinct style and insights into what a bride can expect from her dress buying experience.

Annalize Senol is manageress of Morgan Davies London – a boutique store in Islington whose stock ranges from celebrity designer Jenny Packham to Alan Hannah and Jesus Peiro to name but a few.  Annalize has been working for Morgan Davies for 10 years and believes the experience of going to a retail store gives you a starting point to try different styles, especially if you have no idea of what you are looking for, or the initial idea you were after just hasn’t worked.

A good bridal consultant should be able to talk to clients easily, but more importantly they should listen and read between the lines. Often what a client may think is best isn’t always what they end up with. By going to Morgan Davies London, a client will feel reassured in their decision and feel looked after from beginning to end. Find out more on what Annalize says in the podcast and her top tips on lead times and how many shops you should really go to.

If going to a retail store isn’t your thing then the idea of getting your dress made could be for you.  There are many different designers out there who will give you real alternatives. One example is Yemi Osunkoya from Kosibah Creations. He specialises in corsetry and celebrating the female form in the classical hourglass shape.

Whether you are well endowed up top or not, Yemi uses figure enhancement techniques to give you that ‘wow’ feeling on your special day and with 23 measurements that have to be taken off your body, you definitely will have all your bases covered. His experience also includes the option of making your bridesmaids feel like a million dollars too – so there’s no fighting over what they wear as he creates the same style to fit them individually rather than the whole group.  Here is an example of his flamboyancy, flair and attention to detail.

Finally if you aren’t looking for a traditional or flamboyant white dress Catherine Shaw from Allbone and Trimit steps in. With her theatrical background she concentrates on the idea that a dress should be worn as many times as possible and not just on your wedding day. Catherine prefers all things colour to get that special feeling over and over again. Catherine states that prior to Queen Victoria’s reign most people wore the best dress they had which often was coloured and not plain white.

Here is an example of one of her brides thinking outside the box opting for a green dress.

Catherine, Yemi and Annalize provide three different perspectives on wedding dresses, and there are many more, but the key is to look and feel fantastic on your special day.

I hope this has helped to you to understand the different kind of services that are available for brides and you can hear more by going to the Butterfly Journal’s fourth podcast at www.pierrecarr.com/podcast.

If this post has inspired you or If you have any planning questions, advice to share or would like to feature in a future show, leave a comment, or send an email to press@pierrecarr.com. As ultimately this podcast is all about you!

Next month, we look at what’s stopping you from having a wedding abroad.

Until then,  Happy Planning